Despair is a valid response to loss. Trauma is a real thing. Subjectivity is a realness, the leading edge of science no longer disputes that.
Our emotional responses to horrific events is ‘trauma’. That is the definition of trauma – Emotional response to horrific event(s).
Buying my wife a one-way ticket to Thailand on 21 March and accompanying her on that flight was, and is, horrific to me.
Despair is a valid response. I move in and out of that, as does she.
Fortunately she has a natural mind-calming ability and I was trained to transmute emotion and thought and energy by some excellent teachers over the years as if this event was foreshadowed in my life.
Thank you to those teachers. I am forever grateful.